t3: differential drop-attribution probe + devvm metrics

Closes the loop on Viktor's ask to find the t3 disconnect root cause and
definitively rule infra in or out. Server logs alone cannot separate
'client network broke' from 'Cloudflare/tunnel broke' from 't3-serve
stalled' — every cause collapses into the same 20s-watchdog reconnect.

The t3-probe (stacks/t3code) holds three permanent legs that differ only
in path segment: 'cloudflare' (WS via DoH-resolved public DNS -> WAN ->
CF edge -> tunnel -> Traefik -> dispatch), 'internal' (same WS pinned to
the Traefik LB, no Cloudflare), 't3serve' (HTTP straight to the serve
process). Whichever leg drops convicts its segment; all legs clean while
a user drops exonerates infra with data. Dispatch gains an
unauthenticated /probe/ws echo + /probe/healthz (gorilla/websocket,
test-first) behind an auth=none path carve-out, guarded by the
authentik-walloff probe.

Also starts scraping devvm's node_exporter (job 'devvm') — it ran
unscraped, so the box whose memory/IO stalls cause the drops had zero
pressure history. Alerts T3ProbeLegDown + T3ProbeDropBurst; runbook
docs/runbooks/t3-drop-attribution.md.

scripts/t3-dispatch/go.mod

@@ -1,3 +1,5 @@
 module t3-dispatch
 
 go 1.22
+
+require github.com/gorilla/websocket v1.5.3 // indirect